Cross-sex friendship and its outcome

I came across this interesting sociology topic, cross-sex friendship and I learnt a bit more.

What is cross-sex friendship? It is having a friend of the opposite sex, that is, a man has a female friend and a woman has a male friend.

Cross sex friendship is historically rare in many societies while partnership is better acceptable model. There have been many social territories where such kind of relationship has been prohibited on the ground of religion, tradition and culture. Even though there is no such restriction, many people would not need an opposite sex as a friend. For example, a man with a full of family commitment would not pay attention too much on his old and new friends.

On the other hand, there have been a few societies in which cross-sex friendship is well accepted as part of a social life. In this point, it can be seen that there is less discrimination between genders, treating both sex as the same.

It is suggested that it is a sort of social freedom. But it would bring some drawbacks. For example, cross-sex friendship could ruin the existing partnership or even harm the marriage life. It would force to stop a potential long term partnership. It is also inevitable that members of society often presume a sexual involvement. Further more, it is not uncommon that there is a possibility of the existence of sexual tension. Some believe that cross-sex friendship occasionally acts as a start of adultery.

However, having a friend of the opposite sex would have some benefits. Basically, one can get an emotional support which is not available from the same sex friend. Besides, it would be a very useful approach for someone who is meticulously choosing his or her future partner. That friendship could be transformed into a partnership at any time if circumstances are right.

To conclude, cross-sex friendship is one of the social models despite its variable incidence depending on individual person and society. Some one would create this relationship for one or more purposes. But it can be said that it would be an unacceptable condition if someone claim “it is just a friendship" in order to cover up what is actually happening.

Any educated argument, Welcome

Further readings

1. Cross-sex friendship in adulthood
   
2. Cross-sex friendship by Michael Monsour
3. The effect of gender role orientation on same- and cross-sex friendship formation

Referene

1. Cross-sex friendship Wikipedia